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Every wedding deserves to be captured for posterity in print. Your pictures aren’t just any images. They are souvenirs, heirlooms for your descendants to look at and exclaim over. So it makes sense to get a photographer who will really bring out the best images of your special event.

Here are some things you should check when looking for the photographer for your wedding:

- His previous work must appeal to you. Put yourself in the place of the people in the images in his sample albums. Are these how you’d like your pictures to look?

- Confirm if he will be the photographer at your wedding himself or if he will assign someone else. Some shops have many photographers in their stable. You need to see the work of the person who will actually be handling your event.

- Promptness is a very important trait in wedding photographers. Your wedding is a once in a lifetime event. His being late will make a difference in your album.

- His attitude and appearance will also be important. You are looking for someone who can make the transition shots very smoothly, has good crowd control and who looks presentable and acceptable at your event. The last thing you need are offended friends and relatives on your wedding day.

- You can’t argue that some people have a great eye and timing. You need someone who can capture the soul of your nuptials, not someone who will make you all look like you’re posing for high school class picture.

- Cost is the last item on your list. Once you’ve found the photographer you like it’s best to find out if your budget can accommodate his fee. Keep in mind that the higher his skills, the higher his fees will be too.

Marriage Will Add Happiness to Your Life

Most people overestimate the benefits of getting married while underestimating the problems. Most people think that getting married will make them happier, feel more connected, and bring move love into their lives. In reality, marriages also limit people’s freedom and autonomy, marriages constrain choices, and getting married increases the likelihood of conflict (disputes over time, money, children, etc). Simply put, most people enter marriage with unrealistic expectations of what is going to happen, which ultimately results in disappointment, anger, and frustration. Unfortunately, people expect marriages to be source of happiness and joy, when, in fact, marriages are a source of much happiness AND much frustration. In fact, research show that people are more likely to be mean to a spouse than to a complete stranger. People are more likely to show disregard, indifference, and anger to a spouse compared to how they would treat a stranger. This happens because close relationships, not only create rewards, but they also create problems. And unfortunately, most people are not ready or well prepared to deal with the problems.

Romantic, Passionate Love Will Last

There are two types of love. The type of love that rules our decision making at the start of a relationship - romantic, passionate, love. And there is the type of love that makes a relationship work - companionate love. Romantic, passionate love is exciting, intense and all encompassing. Companionate love is based on affection, appreciation and companionship. Most people marry because they are swept up in romantic, passionate love, not realizing that this type of love is going to fade. Romantic, passionate love always fades - especially after two years of marriage. And when it starts to fade, if you do not have a deep appreciation for your spouse - companionate love - your spouse is not your best friend - your marriage is going be difficult to maintain. Unfortunately, we select spouses on the basis of romantic love, but companionate love is what really matters in the long run.

Love is Enough

Love is never enough to make a relationship work. People think that love will carry them through all of their difficult times. But, in reality, more than just love is needed to make a relationship work. Relationships require good communication skills - being able to resolve conflict in ways that create closeness and understanding. It is important to be able to share feelings without creating defensiveness and more conflict. In short, spouses need to be able to talk to each other and creating understanding without causing more frustration, anger, and hostility.

Having Kids Brings People Closer Together

Many couples think that having kids will bring them closer together. Research, however, shows that having kids leads to dramatic declines in relational satisfaction. Having kids puts enormous strain on a marriage, it increases the demands that couples face, and it often leads to more conflict and less satisfying interactions. If problems exist in a relationship, adding kids to the mix, only makes the problems worse, not better.

Spouses do NOT Cheat when Things are Going Good

It is estimated that close to 30 to 60% of all spouses will cheat at some point in their marriage. And many people think that spouses will only cheat when there are problems in their relationship. Cheating, however, is more complicated than that. Cheating is driven by a host of factors. And it is quite possible for people who are happily married to cheat on a spouse. Cheating can happen for a variety of different reasons.

Timothy Cole, PhD. For more information on cheating, infidelity, lying, deception, love and romance please visit http://www.truthaboutdeception.com